Men
The Woman in Your Life: Self Esteem
n. the degree to which the qualities and characteristics contained in one’s self-concept are perceived to be positive. It reflects a person’s physical self-image, view of their accomplishments and capabilities, and values and perceived success in living up to them, as well as the ways in which others view and respond to that person. The more positive the cumulative perception of these qualities and characteristics, the higher one’s self-esteem. A reasonably high degree of self-esteem is considered an important ingredient of mental health, whereas low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness are common depressive symptoms.--American Psychological Association
a confidence and satisfaction in oneself.--Meriam-Webster
belief and confidence in your own ability and value.--Cambridge Dictionary
Confidence in one's value as a human being is a precious psychological resource and generally a highly positive factor in life; it is correlated with achievement, good relationships, and satisfaction. Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive relationships and situations.--Psychology Today
One's attitude towards oneself or one's opinion or evaluation of oneself, which may be positive (favourable or high), neutral, or negative (unfavourable or low). Also called self-evaluation.--Oxford Reference
"I have no real friends." "No one understands me." "Would anyone like me if they knew the 'real' me?" "Other people have more talent and ability than I do." "Am I a good wife/mother/girlfriend?" "Am I smart enough?" "Am I attractive...sexy?" "Am I loved?" "Am I boring?" "Does my voice sound funny?" "Am I too fat?" "Too skinny?" "Do I sound stupid when I talk?" "Am I too tall?" "Too short?" "Am I too needy?" "Too sensitive?" "Am I good at anything?" "Do I try to please too many people?" "Am I lost?" "Am I a good friend?" "Do I have anything to offer others?" "Will I ever be able to stop criticizing myself?" "Should I just be quiet around others?" "Will I ever be good enough?" "Am I a weakling?" "Do I talk too much?" "Will I ever stop being afraid?" "Will I ever know my purpose in life?" "Why do I always feel guilty?" "Do I need to be 'fixed'?" "Am I too lazy?" "I am horrible with boundaries." "Why do I feel like I have to be perfect?" "Am I lovable?" "Do I give too much?" "Do I have bad habits?" "Do I apologize too much?" "Do I really know who I am?" "I don't trust myself." "I don't trust others." "Am I stupid?" "Am I a failure?" "Do I really know what peace feels like?" "Do I ask permission too much?" "Am I afraid to try new things?" "Do I belong?" "Will I ever believe in myself?" "Why do I always compare myself to other people?" "Will I ever be able to do I really want to do?" "Does he really love me?" "Why am I so quick to tears?" "Am I living or just existing?" "Can I ever let go of all my anger?" "Have I ever really been in love?" "Does my life have meaning?" "What happens if I can never really be 'me'?" "Will I ever be successful?" "Do I settle too much?" "Is there anything about me that I can be proud of?" "Am I lost?" "Do I have anything to look forward to?" "Others seem to have everything together so much more than me." "Do I try to impress others too much?" "Do I deserve romance?" "What happens when I get old?" "Am I annoying to others?" "Is there anything about me that stands out?" "Do I show enough love?" "Do I deserve to be happy?" "Do I deserve to be loved?" "Have I ever accomplished anything?" "If I was in danger is there anyone who would save me?" "Am I weird?" "Why do I repeat the same stupid things over and over again?"
Some Inner Thoughts . . .
When Inner Thoughts Become Self-Denigrating Beliefs . . .
Example 1: Evacuated Emma
Example 2: Attacking Ava
Men are less inclined to wrestle with the incessant, troubling thoughts and negative "self-talk" that can plague women. While susceptible to similar bouts of reviling personal interrogation, men too can wrestle with thoughts that can lead to low self-esteem though it is more common among women. It is important that men understand this and seek to be a source of counter resolution when the woman in his life is suffering from sources of self-doubt that can with great intensity occupy their internal examinations.