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The Woman in Your Life: Sexual Issues

Definition

Sexual dysfunction is broadly defined as the inability to fully enjoy sexual intercourse. Specifically, sexual dysfunctions are disorders that interfere with a full sexual response cycle. These disorders make it difficult for a person to enjoy or to have sexual intercourse. While sexual dysfunction rarely threatens physical health, it can take a heavy psychological toll, bringing on depression, anxiety, and debilitating feelings of inadequacy. --The Free Dictionary

Sexual dysfunction refers to persistent physical issues, psychological problems, or both that prevent someone from engaging in sexual activities. It can affect any phase of the sexual response cycle, from arousal to orgasm, and can involve various potential causes.Sexual activity can affect a person’s social health as well as their mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Sexual dysfunction can lower a person’s quality of life and self-esteem, and harm their relationships with sexual partners. --Medical News Today

Some Causes

A woman may experience sexual problems if she:
-During Sex: Feels anxiety, pain, vaginal or involuntary muscle contraction (before or during)
-slacks or loses sexual desire
-has difficulty achieving orgasm
-has inadequate lubrication

Sexual Dysfunction

Men

sexual dysfunction can occur as a result of trauma (rape or incest), feelings of guilt, a poor view of self, chronic fatigue, depression, beliefs and marital problems.

Practical Realities: Differences Between Men & Women

Stimulation:
Men are largely stimulated visually, often having less regard for the person in the "stimulating" body.
Women are concerned with romance, character, and personality, simultaneously yielding both physically and emotionally.

Response:
Men typically can reach "go time" much more quickly, even void of connection, intimacy, connection or tender moments.
This "Wham Bam" activity can lead to a woman feeling disrespected, undervalued and cheapened, which can lead to her feeling like a prostitute being used.

Results (not meant to be exhaustive) of Sexual Dysfunctional:
Men
*The act of intercourse can become a "conquest" viewed as a "victory" event.
*Pursued as a proof of masculinity driven by insecurity.
*Bragging rights to others

Women
*Marital "duty" response.
*Used as a favor or "payment" means toward an end.
*Engaged as replacement for verbal communication
*Physical substitute for emotional love.
*Used or withheld as a form of manipulation.

Both Sexes
*Deflection (or even a defense) against tension and anxiety

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Grab & Go . . . !

How can you work to ensure that your wife feels close to you?
How can you work to ensure that she knows you respect her individually?
How can you be cognizant of the fact that your wife's process is a "crock pot" not a "microwave oven?"

* Ask about her day . . .and LISTEN!
* Offer to help around the house (cleaning, cooking, kids, etc.). Better yet just do it!
* Remind her that you WANT to be there with her, that you are attracted to her, and desire her (hint, it doesn't need to be verbal)
* There is value in touch, whispers, talking about feelings (foreplay) so do it.
* Resist pressure.
* Pay attention to your hygiene--be attractive to her
* Change it up before and after (location, technique etc)
* Continue all the above AFTER the act so she doesn't feel manipulated.