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The Woman in Your Life: Lonely & Bored

Lonely, adjective
1. being without company; cut off from others
2. not frequented by human beings
3. sad from being alone
4. producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation
- Merriam-Webster

"I have no real friends."          "No one understands me."          "Would anyone like me if they knew the 'real' me?"     "Other people have more talent and ability than I do."     "Am I a good wife/mother/girlfriend?"     "Am I smart enough?"     "Am I attractive...sexy?"     "Am I loved?"      "Am I boring?"     "Does my voice sound funny?"     "Am I too fat?"     "Too skinny?"     "Do I sound stupid when I talk?"     "Am I too tall?"     "Too short?"     "Am I too needy?"     "Too sensitive?"     "Am I good at anything?"     "Do I try to please too many people?"     "Am I lost?"     "Am I a good friend?"     "Do I have anything to offer others?"     "Will I ever be able to stop criticizing myself?"     "Should I just be quiet around others?"     "Will I ever be good enough?"     "Am I a weakling?"     "Do I talk too much?"     "Will I ever stop being afraid?"     "Will I ever know my purpose in life?"     "Why do I always feel guilty?"     "Do I need to be 'fixed'?"     "Am I too lazy?"     "I am horrible with boundaries."     "Why do I feel like I have to be perfect?"     "Am I lovable?"     "Do I give too much?"     "Do I have bad habits?"     "Do I apologize too much?"     "Do I really know who I am?"     "I don't trust myself."     "I don't trust others."     "Am I stupid?"     "Am I a failure?"     "Do I really know what peace feels like?"     "Do I ask permission too much?"     "Am I afraid to try new things?"     "Do I belong?"     "Will I ever believe in myself?"     "Why do I always compare myself to other people?"     "Will I ever be able to do I really want to do?"     "Does he really love me?"     "Why am I so quick to tears?"     "Am I living or just existing?"     "Can I ever let go of all my anger?"     "Have I ever really been in love?"     "Does my life have meaning?"     "What happens if I can never really be 'me'?"     "Will I ever be successful?"     "Do I settle too much?"     "Is there anything about me that I can be proud of?"     "Am I lost?"     "Do I have anything to look forward to?"     "Others seem to have everything together so much more than me."     "Do I try to impress others too much?"      "Do I deserve romance?"     "What happens when I get old?"     "Am I annoying to others?"     "Is there anything about me that stands out?"     "Do I show enough love?"     "Do I deserve to be happy?"     "Do I deserve to be loved?"     "Have I ever accomplished anything?"     "If I was in danger is there anyone who would save me?"      "Am I weird?"     "Why do I repeat the same stupid things over and over again?"     

Some of Her Inner Thoughts . . .

As I've stated in other sections, Men and women alike are exposed to various conditions, in this case boredom and loneliness. However, men often find physical outlets to relieve pressure and stress, while women often "stay inside their heads" when it comes to the matters or pressures and exhaustion. It is important that men understand this and be both sensitive and supportive to the realities of pressures plaguing the woman in their lives that lead to fatigue, even exhaustion.

Some Definitions . . .

Most Common Response: Fight or Flight

While not her only response to feelings of inferiority, the two most common are conflict and/or withdrawal. 

Men

Lonely, adjective
unhappy because you are not with other people
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feeling sad and alone

• lonely I've been lonely since my friends moved away.

• lonesome US I'm feeling lonesome.

• isolated I wouldn't like living out in the country - I'd feel isolated from the rest of the world.

• forlorn The characters, a flighty heiress and her forlorn suitor, are a delight.

• lorn He's a lone, lorn creature.

• desolate After the market crash, desolate financiers left the field.
  - Cambridge Dictionary

Bored, adjective
filled with or characterized by boredom
- Merriam-Webster

Bored, adjective
feeling unhappy because something is not interesting or because you have nothing to do, or showing that you feel like this:
It was a cold, wet day and the children were bored.
bored with I am beginning to get bored with eating salad.
bored of She was getting bored of listening to the same thing every day.
There was a bored expression on her face.
Thirty bored students looked back at me.
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Thesaurus: synonyms, antonyms, and examples

unhappy because nothing is interesting

• boredI’m so bored right now, I might as well just go to bed.

• bored stiffWe were bored stiff at Nan’s house.

• bored out of your mindI am bored out of my mind - give me a project to work on!

• be tired ofI'm tired of all her complaining.

• weary ofBoth countries are very weary of the conflict and wish for peace.
  - Cambridge Dictionary