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Colossians 3:12
Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
Psalm 1:1-6
1 Oh, the joys of those who do not follow the advice of the wicked, or stand around with sinners, or join in with mockers. 2 But they delight in the law of the LORD, meditating on it day and night. 3 They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season. Their leaves never wither, and they prosper in all they do. 4 But not the wicked! They are like worthless chaff, scattered by the wind. 5 They will be condemned at the time of judgment. Sinners will have no place among the godly. 6 For the LORD watches over the path of the godly, but the path of the wicked leads to destruction.
Patient & Tolerant
some definitions . . .
Patient adjective
1: bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint
2: manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain
3: not hasty or impetuous
4: steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity
5 a: able or willing to bear—used with of
b: SUSCEPTIBLE, ADMITTING
patient of one interpretation
Tolerant adjective
1a: willing to accept the beliefs, feelings, habits, or behaviors of another group, culture, etc. as legitimate even when they differ from one's own
b: permitting or accepting something (such as a behavior or belief) that one does not like
2: exhibiting tolerance (see TOLERANCE sense 4a) for something (such as a drug or an environmental factor)
Catalogue: Patient & Tolerant…
Collection of Principles
"A Man Is . . .Vol I"
© David Alessio
A) Calculates the degree of violence present and does not overreact.
B) Does not interrupt or shut down someone who is hurting simply because their behavior is uncomfortable, but rather makes it known that they are listening and understand. The exception to this is if they are a harm to themselves or others.
Burdened by Mistakes Generated by Ignorant, Passionate or Rogue Behavior . . .
A) Does not hold others accountable for ambiguous or unknown rules.
B) Recognizes passion and is willing to bend rules and protocols to allow for another’s success, even when doubtful.
C) Overlooks inconsequential failures when coupled with positive zeal.
D) Directly recognizes passion and zeal, even in defeat.
Faced with Anger, Verbal Abuse, Insults and Threats . . .
A) Recognizes pain masked by anger, while maintaining safety.
B) Is not offended by insulting or even effusive condescending verbal abuse of someone in pain, nor thwarted from helping them despite it.
C) Does not take offense when a hurting person expresses anger while performing a duty, task, job, or assignment, but compassionately and firmly redirects positive outcome.
D) Does not react in kind when threatened (even physically) by a hurting person, but instead decisively and powerfully redirects.
E) Does not retaliate when insulted by a hurting person and often confirms (“Tomorrow is another day”).
Approached by Remorse . . .
Provides forgiveness and another chance, and sometimes grants it with a price.
When Competence, Skillsets, or Authority is Challenged and/or Doubted by Fear and Despair . . .
A) Acknowledges and meets fearful resistance with calm explanation.
B) Comforts and brings tangible hope.
C) Understands that fear is not often overcome quickly or with logic.
D) Does not defend himself against peculiar or unsavory assumptions about his intentions.
When a Hard-Pressed, God-Seeking, Life-Changing Affirmation has been Reached . . .
A) Seeks God’s timing on the matter, not his own.
B) Does not react to denigrating criticism cast by someone attacking his intention or character, even if it is a brother.
When Met with Resistance, even Violent . . .
A) Does not respond unkindly when denied resources, needs or provisions.
B) Does not resist authority, nor does he cower in the face of it when falsely accused.
C) When physically assaulted, does not respond in kind if there is no need for self-protection or that of others.
Confronted by Aggression and Chaos . . .